How can I help?
An anonymous poster has asked how they can help a newly formed family.
CASSEROLES!
We've been home two weeks and I have especially appreciated food, short visits (especially ones in which I get to shower), practical household help (dishes, floors, beds changed etc.), helping with doctor visits, and people accepting our "weird" parenting. People have called before visiting to ask what we need: a quart of milk, warm playclothes for cool weather, a prescription picked up -- all these things help a lot. We've also been really grateful that people are following our requests of "no cuddling, no sweets". We are realizing daily how important this is, so if your new family has made explicit requests, honor them - there are reasons.
So, other families who have BTDT, what do you recommend? and who can provide that missing link? (tee hee)
4 comments:
Wow!! Sounds like you've had a lot of help. Food. Cleaning. Sounds great!!
Hello I'm anonymous from earlier, I guess I should have noted that I plan to do exactly as I would if my sister-in-law was a birth mother - cook some food, pick up groceries, shower her with gifts and yes abide by whatever rules hr and my brother ask me to abide by. I suppose the questions are A. is there anything special I can do to honor this wonderful event and B. is there anything I can do to make the transition for the new family easier on everyone?
I really appreciate you responding especially give how busy you are, congratulations on your new family, I'm a new visitor to your blog, it's been wonderful reading your story.
Anon -
anything special? yes, throw a shower for her.
ease the transition? can you bottle sleep? other than that, it sounds as if you are on a very good track. She is lucky to have your care and foresight.
Well I haven't found the link you are looking for yet. But I did find this one.
http://www.adopting.org/adoptions/10-tips-after-your-older-child-is-home.html 10 tips for after you bring your older chld home.
I also put another Top 10 list on my blog.
I've seen the list you are looking for though. If I find it, I'll let you know.
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